OH WAIT...
So i make my last entry, and then i see this. lolz :-/
Confound it! I hate when the internet touches a nerve!
The Meantime Girl -
She’s the one you call when you’re bored or sometimes when you and your significant other had a fight because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She’s the one you spend time with between buddies, before you find “The One”. You know the one who hangs around in the meantime.
She’s too laidback, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way a “real woman does. But she’s cool, nice, funny and attractive enough that when you’re lonely or horny and need an intimate female companionship, she’ll do just fine.
You don’t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already. She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she’ll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.
It won’t bother that you would text her sometimes just to say not to text you because you’re with your girlfriend. She’s just sooo cool…why can’t all women be like that? But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with.
Sure, it’s mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs —- she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them does, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe she’s not really your type. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman.
She’s just too thoughtful. She’ll sometimes buy you things you need; she’ll sometimes buy you or cook midnight snacks for you and personally deliver it in your place. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has the bigger heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is. She’s just your convenient excuse to fool around.
(via email, 2001)
New Edition - You're Not My Kind of Girl
4 comments:
This must have been written by a young man. I read all those qualities and I see someone to settle down with.
Wait... does that mean I'm old and domesticated now??
thanks for the perspective jazzbrew. I agree. this person sounds great to me. Its the whippersnappers that don't appreciate a good thing. lol. You're a man among men! I was ready to start feeling sorry for myself. maybe even throw a pity party. Roberta flack would provide the soundtrack while i drown my sorrows in cheap liquor and watch hours upon hours of reality tv! emo extravaganza! ack! lol
btw it totally means you're old and domesticated. not that anything is wrong with that. ;)
Wow..i'm late reading this, but damn. and it does a much better job of being descriptive than that damn new edition song, that barely explains why she's not their kind of girl. I think one line is dedicated to the actual reason
Rashad that song is one of the saltiest things ever. when i got older and paid attention to the lyrics i was like wha?
he keeps telling her what its NOT (not your looks, its not your style, its not the way you carry yourself) THEN he tells her about her great qualities, but still keeps saying she's not his kind of girl. i'd be pissed if i was that girl. i think im pissed just thinking about it. you dont like me? fine! dont write me a thesis about it! get out my face so i can be on to the next. funk that. lol
to quote tai from clueless:
"if im too good for him, then how come im not with him??"
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