50 QUALITIES I DESIRE IN MY NEXT SIGNIFICANT OTHER

So this afternoon i had a perfectly lightweight and enjoyable conversation with one of my homegirls about qualities we desire/look for in a potential SO.

(sidenote: when did SO supplant boyfriend/girlfriend in defacto slanguage? Does the latter sound too juvenile? I was still saying boyfriend not too long ago until i realized everybody had moved beyond that. Late, as usual.)

So while they are still fresh on my mind, i decided to list them here. Things related to physical appearance are left out, because well, they make me look shallow. I'll admit to having a type, but that information is neither here nor there. Looking over some of these, i realize that technically they aren't all "qualities". Some are behaviors, and mannerisms. But the general idea is there. Also, this is not a plea for someone to hook me up. Just some fun on a lazy Sunday evening.

These are the first 26. I'm halfway through my list, and my hands are tired. Stay tuned for the second half. :-)

Hereee we go:

He:

1. Is genuinely nice. Yeah yeah, nice is a bland descriptor, but when you meet someone who is, at heart, a really nice person? You understand why the word was invented in the first place. The world is full of jackasses, but i don't need/want to be dating one.

2. Can deliver snark, and can handle mine. There's nothing like being out in public, seeing some craziness and feeling the freedom to pop off some acerbic observational wit. Don't make me feel like the worst person on earth! join in! :-)

3. Likes sports. Especially football. In my life i've met a few men who don't watch any sports. Crazy right! They told me this proudly, like maybe it would impress. I found it disconcerting. This sounds weird but it made them seem less masculine. Maybe i'm exposing my limitations but so be it. **I** can't handle that. At least enjoy watching table tennis or something!

4. Eats meat. Its a new era and most people are concerned about health and the things they put in their bodies, but you gotta be able to get down with a nice juicy steak every at least once in a while. Or a burger. Shoot, grilled chicken works. Bonus points if you eat pork. (do they still make those?)

5. ...But is not afraid to do the vegetarian thing on occasion. There are times when i have gone a week without any kind of meat in my diet. Salads, soups, tofu, beans... there are delicious alternatives to meat. Its nice to have a man who won't freak out if i make a meal sans flesh.

6. Doesn't mind that im a homebody.

7. Doesn't mind being a homebody with me.

8. Enjoys having long conversations about irrelevant, immaterial and completely asinine subjects. (for ex: which snorks were black)

9. But can flip the script and have deep mindblowing conversations about saving the planet, the state of the economy, or why felicity was a better show than dawson's creek. :-)

10. A great sense of humor. The quirkier the better. Marilyn Monroe said "If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." She's 99% right.

11. Watches or will watch star wars. If you haven't seen it, then let me introduce you. If you are deadset against it, then we probably have nothing more to say to each other. lol.

12. reads. (books!)

13. Is smart. Not so smart that they make me feel dumb though. (My ego is fragile Stephen.)

14. Can drive.

15. Doesn't live or die by gender roles but deep down subscribes to the basic ones: i.e. Men put out the trash. :-)

16. Understands im generally antisocial.

17. But knows that doesn't mean he can get away with never taking me out! lol

18. Is supportive

19. Is a nerd. And NOT in name only. I've met so-called nerds before, but when its time to do something nerd-like (for date night, make plans to watch the history channel Universe marathon; Check out the Canaan Israel exhibit at the museum ) they balk! fakeurs!

20. Is a gentleman.

21. Can handle the fact that my crush on Pharrell Williams will probably never go away. And yes, i actually was ogling him in the video that just came on. I get points for honesty right?

21. Is great at pillow talk.

22. Will, at least once during our relationship, sit and watch all of Gone With the Wind with me. Just once is all i ask. With no complaints about the running time. Bonus points if he pretends he likes it. :-)

23. Likes my friends (or gives a good impression lol) and Loves my family.

24. Doesn't mind my occasional bouts of clingyness (not crippling clingy)

25. Knows how to argue without attacking the achilles. Even the best relationships experience heated exchanges, and mine are not exempt. So let us have a "spirited discussion" but keep it clean! but bringing up how i _________ in such an emotionally charged moment is below the belt man.

26. Understands that i'm basically full of isht, but loves me anyway. :-)



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