Its no secret that this blog hasn't been moving me lately. Actually it hasn't been moving much of anyone, as evidenced by the dearth of readers. My last moment of inspiration came when i was writing my list. There's probably a message in there somewhere...
Anyway, i've found a new pleasure. Actually i've had this pleasure for a while, its just that i've just now decided to share it with you all. (do you all even exist anymore?)
Its tumblr, and it speaks to me on a very basic level. I can post pictures, passing thoughts and random quotes multiple times a day. Where one entry per 24 hour period seems to suffice here, a tumblelog begs for constant - albeit brief - updates. Where pictures posted on this blog seem a bit narcissisistic(i truly think i butchered that spelling), pictures on a tumblelog add flavor. And when quotes on a traditional blog seem pretentious, quotes on a tumblelog seem to give it a depth.
So when i don't feel like being verbose, you can catch me there. Long wordy blogs will still come here, but other than that...
So here are the final 24 on "list". (50-26 = 24... right? ...wait, yall aint suffosed to know i suck at math. lol)
The list is by no means exhaustive (as i was writing, more and more things were popping into my head, i could've easily reached 75, maybe 100) but I said 50, so I'm sticking to my word, and not going to bore yall with more than that. I do feel like i must make the disclaimer that i do NOT live or die by this list. In fact, i didn't really know what it was that attracted me to certain men (i could always elaborate on what repelled me) until I actually had to quantify it.
Wait.
Omg, did i just discover something about myself?? I usually try hard not to do that. Plausible deniability you know. :-)
By the way, listmaking is fun.
Without further ado:
27. Is taller than I am...in my highest heels... PLUS a few inches. I know i said i wasn't going to list any physical attributes, but i had to make an exception with this one. The idea of being married to someone my height or shorter just doesn't work for me. It doesn't take much to be taller than i am (sigh) when i'm in my stocking feet, so i had to make the "in heels" stipulation. No Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman-ing(katie holmes) over thissaway.
28.Enjoys the sound of silence. (Except when i want to talk, and discuss feelings and stuff. Then he LURVES the sound of my voice. lol)
29. Is liberal with hugs, and isn't wimpy with it. Squeeze me till i can't breathe. Make me feel that isht! :-)
30. Is a good kisser.
31. Kisses for no reason.
32. Listens, and is compassionate.
33. Can deliver a mean shoulder rub.
34. Is handy. There's just something about a man who knows his way around a toolbox. ROWR!
35. Wants kids.
36. Doesn't disparage video games. I find this is an issue more with women than with men but still. I'm a child of the 80s. I discovered blip in a dusty corner of the family room closet and it was over from there. My family didn't get our first video game system (nintendo with the gun AND power pad!) until 1990, but that didn't stop me from getting my electronic fix elsewhere. I remember going to my cousins house, barely saying hello to my aunt and uncle...and heading straight for their apple IIGS. (i LIVED for summer and winter games) So yeah, old habits die hard. I'm grown and have responsibilities now, but i can't front. I still get hype over my games. But don't get it twisted, doesn't mean i can't function in respectable society. lol.
37. Has short fingernails.
38. Doesn't paint his nails. I don't care if it is CLEAR! *gag*
39. Is a man. Piggybacking off of 37... If my dude has more creams and lotions than i do (shoot. even if we have equal amounts) we have a problem. I'm all for keeping a situation moisturized, and wanting to look good, but there is something twisted and evil about a a man who is prone to primping. (see: Sammy Sosa)
40. Cuddles. (yeah, i said it.)
41. Is laid back.
42. But isn't the poster boy for inertia.
43. Likes to dance. I don't need fred astaire, but please be willing to at least do a two step. Nothing worse than going out to dance, but homie refuses to dance! So you're left dancing with your girls, (which, is fun, i won't lie) dancing with the dude with sweaty palms and a wandering eye, or sulking in a corner all night. Not fun. Bonus points if he is willing to take a dance class (or classes) with me.
44. Humble, while knowing his strengths.
45. Lets me put my feet under him when we are sitting on the sofa and watching tv/a movie. (bonus points if my feet are under him AND we are watching gone with the wind.)
46. Loves his mom. As my mother (along with millions of mothers around the world i'm sure) has said: "look how he treats his mother, that's a good indication of how he will treat you." As with anything, there are exceptions: but this is my rule of thumb. If he treats his mother like crap... you won't be far behind.
47. Shares my Dallas Cowboys hate, or if not hate, disdain.
48. Kills bugs without making a big production over how i'm closer to it and in the time i took to go find him to tell him to kill it, i could have been killed it myself and omg lex the spider wasn't even that big! (bonus points if he doesn't try to scare me with the carcass)
49. Laughs at my corny jokes. (this should probably be number one. lol)
So this afternoon i had a perfectly lightweight and enjoyable conversation with one of my homegirls about qualities we desire/look for in a potential SO.
(sidenote: when did SO supplant boyfriend/girlfriend in defacto slanguage? Does the latter sound too juvenile? I was still saying boyfriend not too long ago until i realized everybody had moved beyond that. Late, as usual.)
So while they are still fresh on my mind, i decided to list them here. Things related to physical appearance are left out, because well, they make me look shallow. I'll admit to having a type, but that information is neither here nor there. Looking over some of these, i realize that technically they aren't all "qualities". Some are behaviors, and mannerisms. But the general idea is there. Also, this is not a plea for someone to hook me up. Just some fun on a lazy Sunday evening.
These are the first 26. I'm halfway through my list, and my hands are tired. Stay tuned for the second half. :-) Hereee we go:
He:
1. Is genuinely nice. Yeah yeah, nice is a bland descriptor, but when you meet someone who is, at heart, a really nice person? You understand why the word was invented in the first place. The world is full of jackasses, but i don't need/want to be dating one.
2. Can deliver snark, and can handle mine. There's nothing like being out in public, seeing some craziness and feeling the freedom to pop off some acerbic observational wit. Don't make me feel like the worst person on earth! join in! :-)
3. Likes sports. Especially football. In my life i've met a few men who don't watch any sports. Crazy right! They told me this proudly, like maybe it would impress. I found it disconcerting. This sounds weird but it made them seem less masculine. Maybe i'm exposing my limitations but so be it. **I** can't handle that. At least enjoy watching table tennis or something!
4. Eats meat. Its a new era and most people are concerned about health and the things they put in their bodies, but you gotta be able to get down with a nice juicy steak every at least once in a while. Or a burger. Shoot, grilled chicken works. Bonus points if you eat pork. (do they still make those?)
5. ...But is not afraid to do the vegetarian thing on occasion. There are times when i have gone a week without any kind of meat in my diet. Salads, soups, tofu, beans... there are delicious alternatives to meat. Its nice to have a man who won't freak out if i make a meal sans flesh.
6. Doesn't mind that im a homebody.
7. Doesn't mind being a homebody with me.
8. Enjoys having long conversations about irrelevant, immaterial and completely asinine subjects. (for ex: which snorks were black)
9. But can flip the script and have deep mindblowing conversations about saving the planet, the state of the economy, or why felicity was a better show than dawson's creek. :-)
10. A great sense of humor. The quirkier the better. Marilyn Monroe said "If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." She's 99% right.
11. Watches or will watch star wars. If you haven't seen it, then let me introduce you. If you are deadset against it, then we probably have nothing more to say to each other. lol.
12. reads. (books!)
13. Is smart. Not so smart that they make me feel dumb though. (My ego is fragile Stephen.)
14. Can drive.
15. Doesn't live or die by gender roles but deep down subscribes to the basic ones: i.e. Men put out the trash. :-)
16. Understands im generally antisocial.
17. But knows that doesn't mean he can get away with never taking me out! lol
18. Is supportive
19. Is a nerd. And NOT in name only. I've met so-called nerds before, but when its time to do something nerd-like (for date night, make plans to watch the history channel Universe marathon; Check out the Canaan Israel exhibit at the museum ) they balk! fakeurs!
20. Is a gentleman.
21. Can handle the fact that my crush on Pharrell Williams will probably never go away. And yes, i actually was ogling him in the video that just came on. I get points for honesty right?
21. Is great at pillow talk.
22. Will, at least once during our relationship, sit and watch all of Gone With the Wind with me. Just once is all i ask. With no complaints about the running time. Bonus points if he pretends he likes it. :-)
23. Likes my friends (or gives a good impression lol) and Loves my family.
24. Doesn't mind my occasional bouts of clingyness (not crippling clingy)
25. Knows how to argue without attacking the achilles. Even the best relationships experience heated exchanges, and mine are not exempt. So let us have a "spirited discussion" but keep it clean! but bringing up how i _________ in such an emotionally charged moment is below the belt man.
26. Understands that i'm basically full of isht, but loves me anyway. :-)
In honor of the posthumous release of Michael Jackson's Concert footage I have uploaded video and a picture saluting (one of) my heroes. Last night I discovered i was wearing an MJ-esque ensemble (white t-shirt/ black leggings) all i had left to do was grab my fedora (yes i own a man's fedora) and a glove. My friend snapped the pic et voila! Unfortunately i had no sequined gloves (who does?) I didn't even have a white glove. My brown kidskin leather was a fine stand in though. It would have been cooler if i had some white tape around my fingers though.
And the piece de resistance? Some video of me dancing to off the wall. Its very short, and not all that sweet, but it was the least i could do for the king.
Other than see the film.
P.S. sorry for the film quality... but its just as well. If rhythm is a dancer, then i'm a parapalegic. Yikes! You'd never guess i've been taking dance lessons for years! I suck at freestyle! This is a horrible development. That's why you shouldn't watch yourself on film. :-(
P.P.S. this video happened early this morning, as i woke up way early and had nothing better to do. I promise it will never happen again!
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